Couples & Money Month Question of the Week: Spousal Hot Water

December is Couples & Money Month in which Dr. Jackie Black’s new book “Couples & Money: Cracking the code to ending the #1 conflict in marriage” will be featured throughout the entire month on the PI Window on Business.

As part of our coverage, we will be posing to Dr. Jackie a question each week that will be aired in a special 15 minute segment each Tuesday on the Blog Talk Radio Network.  Later in the month we will be airing a special 60 minute segment dedicated to answering your questions which you can be submit through this blog or by way of the virtual chat room and/or telephone call-in during the live broadcast.

Here is the link to Dr. Jackie’s response to the following question submitted by one of our listeners; Couples & Money Month Question of the Week: Spousal Hot Water

I would of course encourage you to share your thoughts regarding this week’s question which asks for direction as to how you should deal with a spouse who is repeatedly getting into financial hot water.

“My partner is constantly getting into trouble in terms of overspending and then after the fact comes to me to help bail them out.

Situations in the past have included covering bounced checks, paying old debts after running into friends from whom they borrowed in the past and  replacing the money taken from the proceeds of book sales for a local charity.  In each instance I have covered the shortfalls which has created a strain in that I did not budget for the expense and therefore had to delay needed expenditures in other areas.  And each time, my partner has expressed remorse – sometimes tearfully – including the the time before last when after suggesting that I manage all the finances and handing over their cash card, they went to the bank indicating that they had lost their card and obtained a new one only to withdraw $600 which was spent within 48 hours on lottery tickets and various other undisclosed items.

In this most recent instance, they sold approximately $500 worth of Avon-type goods but instead of using the collected funds to place the order, spent the money.  Once again I have been asked for help.  What should I do?  Should I help by providing the money so that the order can be placed as my spouse is now receiving calls from the customers who paid her asking for their products?

Note: I discovered that since asking for help, they received $120 yet there was no offer to off-set the aforementioned expense.  When I asked for the $120 I was told that it had already been spent on something else.)”

The above is an interesting scenario, and one that will be addressed by Dr. Jackie in the weekly broadcast on Tuesday.  In the meantime, what would you do if you were the spouse being asked to help?

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One Response to “Couples & Money Month Question of the Week: Spousal Hot Water”
  1. fielding dent says:

    This is difficult. As often times when married…there is shared credit, bank accounts, investments etc. Acquisition of products and services- for some, becomes obsessive. I will be interested in reading this book!

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